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Martin Blackwood ([personal profile] loficharm) wrote2021-03-08 12:34 pm
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Avoidance // for John

October 11th, 2020

[CW: grief, specifically regarding the loss of a mother; memories/discussion of emotional abuse; maladaptive coping mechanisms]

The date creeps up on him, as a lot of important dates do, but it doesn't matter. Last year he'd had a new cat to distract him, as well as a commitment to his own misery and guilt that made it all feel intentional and chosen. This year, he doesn't realize until he's washing up after lunch, spies the calendar on the fridge, wonders why the date seems familiar, and realizes. Almost exactly how he'd realized it was their Darrow anniversary just a few months ago, which could've made him laugh bitterly if he'd had even enough energy to do that. If he'd wanted to draw attention to it.

He'd forgotten. He'd actually forgotten, and might well have gone through this nice, sunny autumnal Sunday with his partner and never once remembered.

But he remembers now, and it's all he can think about, even though it doesn't matter, as he sits on the couch and reads — tries to read — with John buried in his own book beside him. He doesn't think of bringing it up, because what would be the point? At least it's such a dull ache that there's not much to show for it. No tears or heavy sighs or moping about the flat. Just a cat on his lap and John beside him and a book which, while its words are no longer holding him, at least serves well as something to look at.

The thing is, he's fine, and there's nothing to talk about, because it doesn't matter. It's been a long time since it mattered. There's no need to fixate on it; it's good he remembered, and he can spend some time thinking about it as he ought, but it need not extend past that, because it doesn't matter. It's fine, and he's fine, and it's all fine.
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[personal profile] statement_ends 2021-03-09 08:48 pm (UTC)(link)
John relaxes in turn at Martin's initial response. He's acutely aware that this all began with Martin's repeated requests to not talk about it, while John was too busy fixating on what 'it' could possibly be to just leave it alone. He knows he owed Martin a more deliberate offer to drop the subject, but he can't help being quietly relieved that Martin isn't taking him up on it. It makes his earlier pressing feel marginally less asinine, though he still wouldn't go so far as to call it fair. To say nothing of kind.

But his relief, such as it is, is short lived. After another considerable pause, and a few conscious breaths, Martin brings up that tape, and John stills like a bloody rabbit in headlights. He doesn't know what's worse: the simple reminder of it all — those early days back after the hospital, trying to get his head around just how wrong everything had gone, turning to the tapes because at least they were there and available to him, trying not to think about how much easier it suddenly was to find exactly what he was looking for — or that simple, damning, 'didn't you?' That Martin has just... assumed, all this time, that of course John had listened to that tape, had heard Elias lay out the most painful, personal truths about Martin that he could dredge up for no other purpose but to punish him. Of course John had heard it all, far too late, and done nothing.

Actually, the worst of it isn't the reminder or the assumption. The worst is that Martin is right.

John sighs quietly, his gaze fixed on the coffee table. "Yes," he says, biting back any urge to elaborate or pad it with justifications. He knows there aren't any, just as surely as Martin knows what he is.
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[personal profile] statement_ends 2021-03-10 02:31 am (UTC)(link)
The only reason John hasn't withdrawn his hand is because he can't imagine doing that to Martin, denying him any small comfort, however little John might deserve the same, but it surprises him when Martin not only maintains his grip, but shifts closer, his leg nudging gently against John's. That simple gesture is more reassuring than Martin's initial elaboration: John isn't sure he can so readily accept the idea that it was a given that he'd listen. If proving Martin right in that regard is shameful, proving Elias correct is far worse.

Nor is there much comfort to be gleaned from hypotheticals that never panned out. Christ, if he'd come back alive, he might not have even needed the tape; Martin and he could've just... talked. Granted, then that would've doubtless wound up on a tape, but it still would've been preferable to what actually occurred.

He knows that some of this is just stubbornness: he doesn't want to be reassured that it was okay when it felt — still feels — like an appalling invasion of Martin's privacy. But the only thing stronger than his own self-recrimination is his aversion to making Martin feel worse, and when Martin admits to not having been accessible, John finally looks back at him, pulling in a little hiccup of air, an aborted objection. And then Martin meets his gaze and insists that he's glad John heard it, because it spares him the necessity of laying all that misery out for him now, and... Christ. To that, at least, John has no answer.

"Martin..." John winces as Martin shivers, their two points of contact suddenly feeling like far too little. He lets go Martin's hand so he can slide his palm along Martin's shoulders, stopping just short of actually drawing him in. "Come here?" he requests, just... wanting him closer, wanting the reassurance for both of them. It doesn't matter how much he deserves it; Martin does, without question.
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[personal profile] statement_ends 2021-03-11 02:25 am (UTC)(link)
It's an immediate relief when Martin pitches into his arms, curling up against him as he has countless times before. Even as John's heart breaks over the way Martin shivers, he can't help but be grateful for a more familiar physical context, and he holds Martin close, pressing a kiss to his brow. He might almost be comforting him after a nightmare, following a script so familiar he's entirely off-book. This is different, obviously — Martin has never discussed any of this with him; John's all but certain that he hasn't discussed it with anyone — but it feels good to have Martin close, to be able to stroke his back and offer solid, unspoken support as he works out how to continue.

The story he tells is, predictably, excruciating, and John has to bite back the urge to interrupt on more than one occasion. He doesn't want to make the telling harder, he knows how important it is to not halt whatever momentum Martin's able to build, but Jesus Christ, it's awful. Not just how bad it was — the terrible mundanity of a broken home and an unfit caregiver, and the way the fracture echoed through the years — but how much responsibility Martin shouldered without question. How he carried on as if all that misery was some sort of birthright, to the point where any hint of alleviation came twisted up with guilt. How he confessed his own relief as if that was somehow, retroactively, what killed her.

John is quiet for a few moments after Martin runs down, less because he's speechless and more because he wants to be careful, to not just blurt out the logjam of indignant asides that have built up since Martin began. He sorts through them, instead, picking out the most salient details, and decides to start with the freshest.

"You're not a bad person, Martin," he says, soft but firm. "Your mother... I am sure things were difficult for her," he acknowledges with frosty civility, allowing her that bare minimum of consideration and no more. "But she had no right to take it out on you the way she did. Christ, Martin, not ten minutes ago you were apologizing profusely for taking your frustrations out on me; you can't tell me you deserved that sort of treatment when you were a-a child."
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[personal profile] statement_ends 2021-03-11 03:41 am (UTC)(link)
It's not much of an acknowledgment, but it's not an argument, either, so John takes it as a good sign. He keeps up his gentle ministrations, one hand rubbing slow circles against Martin's back, and considers how best to continue. What is most worth saying, especially when Martin sounds so entirely worn out.

"You did the best that you could," he says at length. "Far more than anyone should've expected of you. Of course you'd be relieved when it was over. What was there to miss, when all she ever did was resent you for things you couldn't help?"

There's more he might say: some half-formed ideas about the frequent disparity between the familial ideal and what reality provides, and how little sense it makes to apply the former to the latter — playing the part of a dutiful son against a mother who could never be bothered with the script. But it feels like too much for a Sunday afternoon that has already crumbled into something more fraught than it had any right to be. Instead, he gives Martin a light squeeze, then presses another kiss to his hair.

"I'm sorry that she never really saw you," he softly concludes. "It was her loss."
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[personal profile] statement_ends 2021-03-12 03:17 am (UTC)(link)
Martin uncurls himself, pulling back enough to seek John's gaze. John meets it calmly — or means to, though it's hard to maintain his composure when he sees that Martin's eyes are filling with tears. But he doesn't look away; he refuses to look away when there is nothing here to shy from. If Martin wanted to remain tucked against John's shoulder, he could have done. If he wants to be seen, the least John can do is oblige him.

It's a different sort of relief when Martin leans in to hug him, and John hums quietly, tightening his own embrace into something firm and snug, his fingers curling into Martin's jumper. This is better — it feels more like a return to something that could be normal, eventually, an easing of the oppressive misery that had pressed both of them into the cushions.

And when Martin leans back again, this time for a different reason, there is still nothing for John to do but meet him, lips parting readily under Martin's gentle pressure. Christ, he loves him; he loves him so much he might burst with it, so much that nothing matters but proving it as many times as he has to, to make sure it sinks in. He hums again, low and deliberate, and lifts a hand so he can slide his fingers into Martin's hair.
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[personal profile] statement_ends 2021-03-12 05:18 am (UTC)(link)
John's breath hitches when Martin speaks, not because the sentiment is new, but because of how he says it, the reverent weight he gives each word. "O-oh," he says, a bit foolishly, before Martin kisses him again, and then sinks into his arms. It's second nature to hold him close, to turn his face into the soft weft of Martin's hair and press his lips against his crown. "I love you, too," he says, shutting his eyes for a few moments and just letting himself breathe.

There's nothing uncomfortable about the silence that follows, both of them wrapped snugly in one another's arms. John is perfectly content to just hold him, to feel his breathing shift from something more deliberately controlled to something deep and even and thoughtless. But then his eyelids start to droop, and he realizes that Martin, too, is probably on the verge of dozing off, and while the thought of relocating to the bed seems like far too much effort, he also knows from ample experience that they won't be comfortable for long if they try to do this upright.

"Here," he murmurs, rubbing Martin's back in a bid to rouse him just enough for a little rearrangement. "Let's do this right." He helps ease them both into lying down, his head propped against a spare cushion (they've done this often enough that it seemed a sound investment, being easier on his neck than just leaning against the armrest), Martin tucked comfortably against his side. "There we are," he says softly, puffing out a small, settled sigh and absently running his palm along Martin's arm.